Bruce Goodrich was being initiated into the cadet corps at Texas A & M University.
One night, Bruce was forced to run until he dropped -- but he never got up. Bruce Goodrich
died before he even entered college.
A short time after the tragedy, Bruce's father wrote this letter to the administration,
faculty, student body, and the corps of cadets: "I would like to take this
opportunity to express the appreciation of my family for the great outpouring of concern
and sympathy from Texas A & M University and the college community over the loss of
our son Bruce. We were deeply touched by the tribute paid to him in the battalion. We were
particularly pleased to note that his Christian witness did not go unnoticed during his
brief time on campus."
Mr. Goodrich went on: "I hope it will be some comfort to know that we harbor no
ill will in the matter. We know our God makes no mistakes. Bruce had an appointment with
his Lord and is now secure in his celestial home. When the question is asked, 'Why did
this happen?' perhaps one answer will be, 'So that many will consider where they will
Our Daily Bread, March 22, 1994.
One day, two monks were walking through the countryside. They were on their way to
another village to help bring in the crops. As they walked, they spied an old woman
sitting at the edge of a river. She was upset because there was no bridge, and she could
not get across on her own. The first monk kindly offered, "We will carry you across
if you would like." "Thank you," she said gratefully, accepting their
help. So the two men joined hands, lifted her between them and carried her across
the river. When they got to the other side, they set her down, and she went on her way.
After they had walked another mile or so, the second monk began to complain. "Look
at my clothes," he said. "They are filthy from carrying that woman across the
river. And my back still hurts from lifting her. I can feel it getting stiff." The
first monk just smiled and nodded his head.
A few more miles up the road, the second monk griped again, "My back is hurting me
so badly, and it is all because we had to carry that silly woman across the river! I
cannot go any farther because of the pain." The first monk looked down at his
partner, now lying on the ground, moaning. "Have you wondered why I am not
complaining?" he asked. "Your back hurts because you are still carrying the
woman. But I set her down five miles ago."
That is what many of us are like in dealing with our families. We are that second monk
who cannot let go. We hold the pain of the past over our loved ones' heads like a club, or
we remind them every once in a while, when we want to get the upper hand, of the burden we
still carry because of something they did years ago.
Dr. Anthony T. Evans, Guiding Your
Family in a Misguided World.
One New Year's Eve at London's Garrick Club, British dramatist Frederick Lonsdale was
asked by Symour Hicks to reconcile with a fellow member. The two had quarreled in the past
and never restored their friendship. "You must," Hicks said to Lonsdale.
"It is very unkind to be unfriendly at such a time. Go over now and wish him a happy
New Year." So Lonsdale crossed the room and spoke to his enemy. "I wish you a
happy New Year," he said, "but only one."
Today in the Word, July 5, 1993.
Armand M. Nicholi, M.D., professor of psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, explains
that Sigmund Freud died at the age of 83, a bitter and disillusioned man. Tragically,
this Viennese physician, one of the most influential thinkers of our time, had little
compassion for the common person. Freud wrote in 1918, "I have found little that is
good about human beings on the whole. In my experience most of them are trash, no matter
whether they publicly subscribe to this or that ethical doctrine or to none at all"
(Veritas Reconsidered, p. 36). Freud died friendless. It is well-known that he had broken
with each of his followers. The end was bitter.
Discoveries, Summer, 1991, Vol 2, No. 3,
p. 1 quoted in Unfinished Business, Charles Sell, Multnomah, 1989, p. 121ff.
A man in Spokane (Mr. Russell) had arranged for the minister from Fourth Memorial
church to have his wedding. The day came and the minister didn't. The minister sent a
replacement. The man was upset, and never forgot the incident. 30 years later Carolyn had
a garage sale. My mother was there helping. A neighbor came over and they introduced
themselves. He said, "Underhill, are you related to a minister?" "Yes, my
husband is one. "Well, I could tell you a thing or two." Mom said, "Go
ahead, I've heard it all." "30 years ago he was supposed to marry..." and
he told his story. Mom asked, "How long ago was that?" "30 years" he
said. "Well, it couldn't have been my husband. We only moved here 25 years ago."
For 30 years Mr. Russell had been bitter at the wrong man!
"I've had a few arguments with people," comedian Buddy Hackett once
confessed, "but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge,
they're out dancing."
No matter how long you nurse a grudge, it won't get better.
Think about the oyster. It takes a grain of sand and turns it into a beautiful pearl.
Too often we are just the opposite--we take pearls and turn them into grains of sand.
A rattlesnake, if cornered, will sometimes become so angry it will bite itself. That is
exactly what the harboring of hate and resentment against others is--a biting of oneself.
We think that we are harming others in holding these spites and hates, but the deeper harm
is to ourselves.
E. Stanley Jones, Reader's Digest, December 1981.
Shortly after the turn of the century, Japan invaded, conquered, and occupied Korea. Of
all of their oppressors, Japan was the most ruthless. They overwhelmed the Koreans with a
brutality that would sicken the strongest of stomachs. Their crimes against women and
children were inhuman. Many Koreans live today with the physical and emotional scars from
the Japanese occupation.
One group singled out for concentrated oppression was the Christians. When the Japanese
army overpowered Korea one of the first things they did was board up the evangelical
churches and eject most foreign missionaries. It has always fascinated me how people fail
to learn from history. Conquering nations have consistently felt that shutting up churches
would shut down Christianity. It didn't work in Rome when the church was established, and
it hasn't worked since. Yet somehow the Japanese thought they would have a different
The conquerors started by refusing to allow churches to meet and jailing many of the
key Christian spokesmen. The oppression intensified as the Japanese military increased its
profile in the South Pacific. The "Land of the Rising Sun" spread its influence
through a reign of savage brutality. Anguish filled the hearts of the oppressed -- and
kindled hatred deep in their souls. One pastor persistently entreated his local Japanese
police chief for permission to meet for services. His nagging was finally accommodated,
and the police chief offered to unlock his church ... for one meeting.
It didn't take long for word to travel. Committed Christians starving for an
opportunity for unhindered worship quickly made their plans. Long before dawn on that
promised Sunday, Korean families throughout a wide area made their way to the church. They
passed the staring eyes of their Japanese captors, but nothing was going to steal their
joy. As they closed the doors behind them they shut out the cares of oppression and shut
in a burning spirit anxious to glorify their Lord.
The Korean church has always had a reputation as a singing church. Their voices of
praise could not be concealed inside the little wooden frame sanctuary. Song after song
rang through the open windows into the bright Sunday morning. For a handful of peasants
listening nearby, the last two songs this congregation sang seemed suspended in time. It
was during a stanza of "Nearer My God to Thee" that the Japanese police chief
waiting outside gave the orders. The people toward the back of the church could hear them
when they barricaded the doors, but no one realized that they had doused the church with
kerosene until they smelled the smoke. The dried wooden skin of the small church quickly
ignited. Fumes filled the structure as tongues of flame began to lick the baseboard on the
There was an immediate rush for the windows. But momentary hope recoiled in horror as
the men climbing out the windows came crashing back in -- their bodies ripped by a hail of
bullets. The good pastor knew it was the end. With a calm that comes from confidence, he
led his congregation in a hymn whose words served as a fitting farewell to earth and a
loving salutation to heaven. The first few words were all the prompting the terrified
worshipers needed. With smoke burning their eyes, they instantly joined as one to sing
their hope and leave their legacy.
Their song became a serenade to the horrified and helpless witnesses outside. Their
words also tugged at the hearts of the cruel men who oversaw this flaming execution of the
innocent: Alas! and did my Savior bleed? and did my Sovereign die? Would he devote
that sacred head for such a worm as I?
Just before the roof collapsed they sang the last verse, their words an eternal
testimony to their faith: But drops of grief can ne'er repay the debt of love I owe:
Here, Lord, I give myself away 'Tis all that I can do! At the cross, at the cross Where I
first saw the light, And the burden of my heart rolled away -- It was there by faith I
received my sight, And now I am happy all the day.
The strains of music and wails of children were lost in a roar of flames. The elements
that once formed bone and flesh mixed with the smoke and dissipated into the air. The
bodies that once housed life fused with the charred rubble of a building that once housed
a church. But the souls who left singing finished their chorus in the throne room of God.
Clearing the incinerated remains was the easy part. Erasing the hate would take decades.
For some of the relatives of the victims, this carnage was too much. Evil had stooped to a
new low, and there seemed to be no way to curb their bitter loathing of the Japanese.
In the decades that followed, that bitterness was passed on to a new generation. The
Japanese, although conquered, remained a hated enemy. The monument the Koreans built at
the location of the fire not only memorialized the people who died, but stood as a mute
reminder of their pain. Inner rest? How could rest coexist with a bitterness deep as
marrow in the bones?
Suffering, of course, is a part of life. People hurt people. Almost all of us have
experienced it at some time. Maybe you felt it when you came home to find that your spouse
had abandoned you, or when your integrity was destroyed by a series of well-timed lies, or
when your company was bled dry by a partner. It kills you inside. Bitterness clamps down
on your soul like iron shackles.
The Korean people who found it too hard to forgive could not enjoy the "peace that
passes all understanding." Hatred choked their joy. It wasn't until 1972 that any
hope came. A group of Japanese pastors traveling through Korea came upon the memorial.
When they read the details of the tragedy and the names of the spiritual brothers and
sisters who had perished, they were overcome with shame. Their country had sinned, and
even though none of them were personally involved (some were not even born at the time of
the tragedy), they still felt a national guilt that could not be excused.
They returned to Japan committed to right a wrong. There was an immediate outpouring of
love from their fellow believers. They raised ten million yen ($25,000). The money was
transferred through proper channels and a beautiful white church building was erected on
the sight of the tragedy.
When the dedication service for the new building was held, a delegation from Japan
joined the relatives and special guests. Although their generosity was acknowledged and
their attempts at making peace appreciated, the memories were still there. Hatred
preserves pain. It keeps the wounds open and the hurts fresh. The Koreans' bitterness had
festered for decades. Christian brothers or not, these Japanese were descendants of a
The speeches were made, the details of the tragedy recalled, and the names of the dead
honored. It was time to bring the service to a close. Someone in charge of the agenda
thought it would be appropriate to conclude with the same two songs that were sung the day
the church was burned.
The song leader began the words to "Nearer My God to Thee." But something
remarkable happened as the voices mingled on the familiar melody. As the memories of the
past mixed with the truth of the song, resistance started to melt. The inspiration that
gave hope to a doomed collection of churchgoers in a past generation gave hope once more.
The song leader closed the service with the hymn "At the Cross."
The normally stoic Japanese could not contain themselves. The tears that began to fill
their eyes during the song suddenly gushed from deep inside. They turned to their Korean
spiritual relatives and begged them to forgive. The guarded, calloused hearts of the
Koreans were not quick to surrender. But the love of the Japanese believers --
unintimidated by decades of hatred -- tore at the Koreans' emotions: At the cross, at
the cross Where I first saw the light, And the burden of my heart rolled away ...
One Korean turned toward a Japanese brother. Then another. And then the floodgates
holding back a wave of emotion let go. The Koreans met their new Japanese friends in the
middle. They clung to each other and wept. Japanese tears of repentance and Korean tears
of forgiveness intermingled to bathe the site of an old nightmare.
Heaven had sent the gift of reconciliation to a little white church in Korea.
Tim Kimmel, Little
House on the Freeway, pp. 56-61.